Let's Go To The Beach And Stop For A Divorce

Now that the wedding gifts have been put away and most of the Thank You cards have been addressed (but not mailed), my new husband and I sat down last night to start planning our divorce.

Having spent most of my adult life in SC, where it’s easier to get away with murder than get a divorce, I was surprised by divorce laws in the Sunshine State.

In the state of Florida, you can buy a divorce on-line for about $100, file the paperwork, and have a divorce decree in about 4 weeks.

And if you are really into the whole marital bliss thing – you can do it again – the next day! Now, in all fairness, if you want to get married within 30 days of your divorce you must go to the Clerk of Court’s office and have your divorce certificate notarized.

This is paradise, we don’t want for you be to unhappy one moment longer than you have to (long faces are just bad for tourism).

Better Than A Date Better Than A Mate

I recently had someone ask me to be their best friend – not something that I have experienced in about 25 years (give or take). This lead me to the realization that after about age 10 you can no longer say “okay, you’re my best friend” and truly mean it.

In many ways, it’s much more difficult to find a best friend than a mate.

This started me down the path of what exactly makes one friend more valuable than another and the short list went something like this…

A genuine like and respect for who this person is regardless of their behavior
Not only overlooking each others faults but (at least to some extent) finding these faults endearing
Laughing together
Enjoying each others company and conversation
Having similar goals and interests
The ability to inspire one another
Knowing that they will still love you at your very worst
Being able to give and receive advice without the fear of manipulation
The ability to admit when you are wrong and forgive when you aren’t

If you are lucky enough to have this relationship with someone other than your dog – DO NOT let it go – it may never happen again.

I wonder what the statistical divorce rate for best friends is?

Birthday Greetings

We all have those friends that fade in and out over the course of our lives.

Then there is you my dear friend who is somehow always there even when you’re not.

You’re a treasure continuously worth rediscovering.

Happy Birthday TCB.

Flabbergasted Defined

It’s a big city, a city that I have just returned to after 17 years, where I live with my husband, who was my high school friend, in a home that he purchased about 3 years ago.

To my utter astonishment, I realized this morning that my ex-boyfriend – from 19 years ago – someone that I never thought I would see again – lives literally 300 yards from my front door.

The irony of the universe never ceases to amaze me.